I hope that I am not the only person who—even
in my late forties, and on a somewhat regular basis—finds it repeatedly shocking
that I am a grownup. When I was a kid or
a teen, “being an adult” seemed like I would have to be an entirely different person
than I was. Yet, while I am indeed very different now than I was at, say, 14, I
am…still just me. I also thought that being
an adult meant “having it all together.”
HA! (Enough said on that.)
I suppose that I came to adulthood later than many people. I was a "student" until I was 32, after all. And I didn't have kids until I was 36 (this was largely a result of watching my siblings have kids while I was a teen). Even now, I regularly look at my kids and think: "Who the hell said I was qualified to be your mother? I have no idea what I am doing." Further, although I have a house and mortgage, it is my husband who understands the mortgage, not me (what are points? I find them as confounding as off-sides in hockey).
But sometimes it just hits me that I am
a full-fledged (and card carrying) adult.
Signs that (for me) indicate that
I am a grownup include:
· When
I look at a house, I notice if the roof needs fixing or replacing.
· The
art on my walls is not held up by thumb tacks.
· I
have a Kitchen Aid and a Cuisinart. And
I use them.
· I
have not gone dumpster diving for furniture in many, many years.
· I
have an office.
· I
have “work clothes.”
· I
go to meetings. I contribute to them. I sometimes even run them.
· I
speak the jargon of my field, and the more specific jargon of my institution (I
can—but try not to—use acronyms numerous times in a single paragraph).
· “My family” can mean the one that I created,
not just the one from whence I came.
· I
refer to my husband as “Dad” when I talk to the kids.
· I
have said a eulogy.
· I
have political opinions.
· I
don’t have to go to any religious institution unless I choose to do so.
· I
look forward to vacations with an aim of doing nothing.
What
are the signs that, somewhere along the way, you turned the corner and became a
grownup?